Confrontation That Connects Hearts
Conversation Structure for Restoring Trust and Empowering Relationships
Conflict and confrontation can be scary. But, it doesn't have to be. Psychology, the sciences, our history, and our own experiences have taught us that most people have one of three responses to conflict and confrontation. They are:
Fight Response - It is an aggressive response that seeks self-protection through domination, control, volume, and intimidation.
Flight Response - It is a self protecting method that abandons the relationship, the confrontation, and the situation. Flight response is experienced when a person shuts down and emotionally disconnects from what is taking place.
Freeze Response - It is also a self-protecting method that is an emotional paralysis. There is neither movement forward towards healthy connection and reconciliation, nor movement backward as in the flight mode. Freeze response is an emotional paralysis that can keep us bound, so we don't grow or move forward.
However, there is a fourth alternative and I call it fortitude. Fortitude is defined as courage in the place of adversity or pain. Confrontation can be a place of adversity and pain, but it doesn't have to be. This Confrontational tool that you are accessing here, is designed to help you demonstrate fortitude and humility while you manage conflict and confrontation with a goal of strengthening relational connection and fostering a relational win-win situation.
I - Confrontation That Connects Hearts
CONVERSATION STRUCTURE FOR RESTORING TRUST AND EMPOWERING RELATIONSHIPS
This document provides biblical verses and instruction, supporting healthy confrontation and healthy relationships which are significant and critical to living with healthy relationships and friendships.
2 - CONFRONTATION PREPARATION WORKSHEET
QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE AND AFTER A CONVERSATION FOR GAINING CLARITY, IDENTIFYING EMOTIONS, AND COMMUNICATING NEEDS FOR CONNECTING HEARTS
This document is designed to walk you through a series of questions that will help you understand with clarity as to what is happening in your heart and mind, identify what you are feeling, what you want to feel and how to communicate your needs. These step by step questions will empower you to manage yourself with integrity and with a vision of hope for the relationship.
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